A Unicorn asks, “Why Tango?”
“Why Tango” is a collection of essays that answered many of my questions about tango” Some of the topics still pop up a lot in my internship, making me realize I am still struggling with the questions and issues that have been discussed. So I am reading it again, and hopefully will write a few blogs about it.
Today I want to talk about why tango in a way that is not directly about “tango” but how dancing tango influenced my life outside tango. The reason I can’t talk about why tango directly is because I still haven’t figured it out clearly, and all the things I already figured out was only partly expressible. And all the things expressible about why I tango was already written in my tango intern application.
I want to talk about how tango made me happy in general, and I believe this would become a major motivation for me to keep dancing. This awareness came from a book called Women Who Think Too Much. Yes, this blog is more about this book than Why Tango. I had a way better summer vacation this year than last year. Actually nothing much changed on surface. I am still in the same school, still far away from home, still Asian, dating the same guy, craving for the same spicy food. But at the same time, there are many changes here and there, that made me happier before I even knew it. And my tango experience is a huge part of it.
In Women Who Think Too Much, the writer who used to be a psychologist at University of Michigan talked about her findings in issues like depression, and suggested that rumination plays a huge role in women’s depression, or maybe anxiety and anger issues. In order to break the overthinking circles and rise above, the first step would be to take actions to do things that you enjoy doing. Interestingly, I read this book at the end of the summer so I could look back and see how this principle applied to me when I enjoyed dancing. This is magic because it’s not just about the happiness when you are doing it at that moment. It’s about how depressed people tend to refuse to do activities even though they know they probably will have a good time. And the ability to break that moment is very important.
Of course, not overthinking doesn’t mean to avoid thinking things. Instead, we want to have a limited time to do constructed reflection, but also be aware of the signal for sinking into the rumination trap again. This book made me realize overthinking doesn’t necessarily lead to wisdom and to me our blog interestingly fit into the constructive reflection model. It’s a special time to think, but also a limited time with other reviewers so both my reviewer and I would watch over the meaningless concern.