Reality is Hard!
“Reality is the conjectured state of things as they actually exist, rather than as they may appear or might be imagined. In a wider definition, reality includes everything that is and has been, whether or not it is observable or comprehensible.” (Wikipedia)
Have you been true to yourself today? How do we even begin to evaluate ourselves in terms of reality and unreality? I like to compare the difference between a reality television show and real life as we experience it. They are two different things entirely.
Are we really who we think we are? How do we want ourselves to be? We might imagine a fantasy character made up in our minds, who abides by the shoulds and should-nots of our conscience. Have you ever met elderly people who seem to have no filter? Perhaps they have learned to be more true to themselves.
Are we wrapped up in the figments and dramas of our imagination, or watching a screen instead of our thoughts? A good way to become more intimate with reality is to reconnect with your body. Yoga inspires us to contend with the present moment, breathe, and feel what it is like to breathe. If I’m not connected with my body, I am ignoring reality, and letting it go by wasted.
When we honor the false self, and diminish the value of our real selves, we might wake up later in life disillusioned. Mid-life crises ensue, we wonder what we’ve been doing this whole time, as if we’ve been playing a game that has no winners and no end in sight. Those who wake up to this disconnect either make a radical shift in lifestyle, or dig deeper into their fantasy life (the one where they act happy and feel rather empty inside but never stop to pay attention).
It can be really scary to open up to my own truths, but it can be so peaceful and satisfying when I do so. Some of the hardest truths I encounter are when I need to refuse something, or express something sad, angry, or frustrated. I try to take it all one day at a time.
Justin Beiber had it right. Hard 2 Face Reality.
“You thought that union was a way you could decide to go. But the soul follows things rejected and almost forgotten. Your true guide drinks from an undammed stream.”
-Rumi, translated by Coleman Barks