What I Learned When My World Was Shattered
What happens when you go from newly wed to divorce in two weeks flat?
So, this is not an easy blog, but I know I’m not the only one who has experienced this, this is also for anyone who has just had their heart broken. Here are some things I have learned.
Things will work out. It will not feel like it, sometimes even for a long time, but they will. The pain will eventually subside. For me, it has not completely yet, however to have the strength to reach out and ask for your support system really helps. Talk and breathe, feelings should be expressed, letting go is next to impossible holding them in.
It is okay to not be okay. You will have good days and bad days, sometimes the bad may not even last all day. Love yourself enough to let you feel what you need to. Don’t blame yourself for having feelings. At the end of the day you are your best advocate, give yourself care.
It is just change. Okay, so, there is a lot more to it. Feelings are involved, dreams may be shattered and a new perspective forced on you. Those, however, are just change. Give yourself new dreams, small steps. Make your own world bigger. And although it can feel awful, you have persevered through the scariest, most challenging part: the initial change.
“Prefer et obdura, dolor hic tibi proderit olim” (Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you.)
I have a firm belief in having no regrets in life. If there is one thing you have learned from a situation and your heart and mind are truly open, then there is always something to be gained. Observe yourself, observe what you do when you feel ways. Build yourself up, be the person you want to be. You can do this!